Going Out Solo: How to Turn Up Alone and Leave With a Squad
Going out by yourself is underrated. Here's how to do it confidently — and meet your people while you're at it.
Waiting for the group chat to agree means missing nights you'll never get back. Going out solo is one of the most underrated social skills — and done right, you rarely stay solo for long.
Pick the right kind of event
Solo works best where the focus is the music or the moment — a gig, a club night, a community event — rather than a sit-down dinner. Choose somewhere the crowd is open and the vibe is social.
Arrive with intent, not anxiety
Get there at a natural arrival time, find a good spot, and let the night come to you. Most people are friendlier than the anxious voice in your head predicts.
Find your people before you arrive
The newest way to go out solo without feeling alone: connect with others heading to the same event. VibeOut lets you form a squad around an event, so you can turn up alone and still have people to find when you get there.
- Choose social, music-led events for going solo.
- Arrive at a natural time and pick a good vantage point.
- Connect with others going to the same event beforehand.
- Say yes more than you normally would.